To celebrate International Fetish Day, we’re not going to focus on just one fetish but on something that can make all of them more enjoyable: lube.

People need to calm down about lube. It’s not a sign you’re bad at sex. If I had a penny for every person who told me they didn’t need lube because they’re good at sex, I’d be rich. There’s too much unnecessary stigma around lubricants.

Lube enhances sex. Using it isn’t about how good you are at getting aroused; it’s about making the experience better. Think of it like washing your hair without conditioner. It works, but you’re missing out on some real benefits.

The good news is that the stigma around lube might be fading. According to a study by lovehoney.co.uk, 37% of people in the UK, US, and Australia have tried using a lubricant. It’s most popular among people aged 25-34, with 49% saying they own some, while only 28% of 55-64 year-olds and 22% of those over 65 have tried it.

Using lube has many benefits:
– It heightens sensation, whether it’s warming, cooling, or just plain.
– It reduces the risk of STDs and tearing during sex.
– It increases comfort by preventing tearing, chafing, and general discomfort.
– It helps you last longer in bed by taking the pressure off your body to stay naturally lubricated.

Dryness can make sex painful and can cause tears. Common causes of dryness include stress, medications, over-washing, dehydration, under-stimulation, and menopause. Each of these factors can impact your body’s natural lubrication.

Now, let’s talk about the best lubes to try:

1. Water-based lube: A good starting point. It’s simple, with little to no flavor or scent.
– Our pick: Bondara Luxury Lubricant (£8.99).

2. Sensitive lubes: For those who have allergic reactions.
– Our pick: ID Moments (£10.99).

3. Moisturizing lubes: Can double as regular moisturizers and are safe to use internally.
– Our pick: Lelo Personal Moisturiser